Before I show you how to create your own new moon ritual, I think it’s important to first explain why.
Why should you choose to work with the moon? And how can this benefit you as a woman?
The moon cycle mirrors our own cycle as women, and also the four seasons of the year.
So living in sync with the moon cycle is a powerful way to live in flow with your own cyclic nature, and with Mumma nature herself.
This isn’t as crazy as it might sound. Our ancestors, and the wise women who came before us all planted, hunted and lived by the cycles of the moon.
The absence of technology meant that they had to. But the rise of technology today means we’ve fallen out of our natural rhythms. And with those, we’ve lost touch with the feminine within and without.
Remember, our human body is made mostly of water and stardust. And the moon rules the tides, which means we’re affected by her energy too.
But if you’re new to working with the moon, and you’re not sure where to begin, don’t worry. It’s simple to create your own new moon ritual, set intentions, and manifest magic in your world.
What does a new moon symbolise?
New moon mirrors the season of Winter. The moon is dark, and so the sky is black.
This is typically the bleeding phase for women. A time when a woman’s physical energy will be lower, and so she slows down and goes inward.
But this is also a time when our creativity is magnified, and our intuition is most potent. This is because the veil between the two worlds is thinned, and so our spiritual essence becomes inseparable from our earthly essence
The new moon is the perfect time for a reset. It symbolises wiping the slate clean and embarking on new beginnings. In contrast, the full moon is a time for harvesting, expansion and celebration.
Here’s how to create your own new moon ritual
The moon has eight phases which you can work with, but the main four phases are:
- New moon
- Waxing moon
- Full moon
- Waning moon
Out of those four phases, the most potent ones are the new moon and full moon. These are the two that I choose to create a ritual for.
Don’t let the word ritual put you off. It’s another word for routine, but it creates a sense of magic and power, infused with spirit.
For example, many people talk about their morning routines, and how to create them. But I choose to describe mine as a morning ritual.
And it doesn’t need to be religious in any way.
A ritual is simply a special ceremony that you create for yourself, or others. It’s a way of creating space for yourself, checking in, and showing yourself some much needed self-care and attention. You get to disconnect from the outside world, be still, and become one with yourself and nature.
Here’s how to create your own new moon ritual.
Ensure it feels magical to you
A ritual should feel special, but also in alignment with you.
It’s great to venture out of your comfort zone and try new things. But if something feels uncomfortable or forced, then it may distract you from your ritual, and stop it from being as powerful and potent as it can be.
It may take a few times before you figure out what truly works for you. Give yourself that time and be patient. Experiment with one or more of the below suggestions, and trust your intuition wherever it may guide you.
Forget what you think you should do. Do what feels right in the moment. And remember this might change from moon to moon.
Choose a time
Evenings tend to work best for most people, as work is usually over, and the kids have gone to sleep.
This is also an ideal time because the moon rules the night. Plus, on full moon when the sky is clear, you’ll be able to see it illuminating above in all its beauty.
But if you’re not able to find time on the day, that’s okay. Try and set aside time for your ritual within two to three days of the new moon, while the frequency is still strong.
Do your best to set aside as least 30 minutes where you can be alone without distractions. Switch off your phone, dim the lights, and make sure you’re wearing something comfy.
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Gather what you need
Here are a few things you might want to have to create your own new moon ritual with:
- essential oils
- sage/palo santo
- a diffuser
- oracle/tarot card deck
- notebook & pen
- a nourishing drink (ideally something plant based)
- a plant or some fresh flowers in a vase
- a yoga mat/comfy cushion
- a pretty scarf or piece of fabric (for your altar)
You could use spotify to create your own moon ritual playlist, or play whatever music you’re feeling in the moment.
Don’t worry about spending a tonne of money on all of the above. Some of them are totally free for starters. Then pick one or two things to invest in that you feel drawn to. It’s not so much about the physical objects, but rather what they symbolise to you, and how they move you.
Be in water
As I mentioned, the moon rules water, and water is a symbolic way of washing away the old so that we can welcome the new.
Running yourself a nourishing bath is a beautiful way to take care of yourself, and create space for reflection.
You can choose to infuse your bath with whatever you like. Epsom or himalayan bath salts, flower petals, or essential oils. Salts are a great way to cleanse impurities and negative energy from your body. Etsy have some lovely organic, vegan, handmade bath salts to choose from. Remember to choose a natural product that has been made with love.
Be sure to light some candles and play some music in the background to set the mood.
You could even go for a swim in the ocean if it’s close by.
Take a step back from the outside world. Surrender to the moment. Sit in the stillness and serenity of the new moon.
Create a nourishing atmosphere
I like to turn the lights off, light a candle or two, and put on some mood-setting music.
I’ll sit on the sofa, or on my yoga mat on the floor, have my notebook and pen handy, and my oracle deck of choice depending on the mood I’m in.
Tune in to your own body on the day to figure out what you need to feel supported and nourished.
There is no wrong way to create your own new moon ritual. It’s meant to be unique to you. So remember to have fun with it!
When the weather is nice, you might want to venture outside and sit on the earth, underneath the sky. This will help you feel more connected to nature.
Just allow the spirit of the moon to guide you.
Each new moon will have its own sacred energy, depending on which astrological sign the moon is in. You could use this as inspiration and create a ritual that helps you invoke this energy.
Creating a ritual altar made up of the four elements is the perfect way to ground yourself. It will also increase the sacredness and power of your ritual.
These are the four elements, and items you can use to represent each of them.
- Earth: crystals, flowers, or stones.
- Fire: a lit candle.
- Air: incense, white sage, or a feather.
- Water: a bowl or vase of water, or a sea shell.
For me, a candle is a must for any ritual I create. When it comes to crystals, don’t get too caught up in their meanings. Choose ones that you feel drawn to.
You can use a pretty scarf or piece of fabric to place these objects on to create your altar somewhere in front of you. Arrange them in the direction of the elements: Fire in the South, Water in the West, Air in the East, and Earth in the North.
Welcome to your ritual altar.
Clear your space
Before starting your new moon ritual, you’ll want to cleanse your space. This helps to get rid of any lingering negative energy.
Sage is considered a sacred plant by Native Americans, and burning it was used for energy cleansing, healing, and rituals.
Open your doors and windows so any unwanted energy can leave. Light the sage for around 30 seconds, then blow on it to create smoke. You can use a feather to waft the smoke into all areas of your home, including hard to reach places.
Palo santo wood has a sweeter aroma, but has similar effects to sage.
And if you’d prefer to keep things cleaner and less fussy, then a few drops of your chosen essential oils into a diffuser will have a similar effect.
Now that you’ve set your space up, grounded yourself, and removed any unwanted energy, you’re ready to sit down. You can stay here for the rest of the ritual – unless you feel called to move.
I like to cross my legs, and get into a comfortable lotus position. You might want to have your hands in prayer position, cupped in your lap, or down by your side. The choice is yours. You might even prefer to lie down – just be sure you’re not so relaxed that you drift off to sleep!
Close your eyes, and connect with your breath. Take some deep inhales and exhales. Be witness to thoughts coming, and going.
You might want to call upon your guides, angels, or any other divine connection you feel supported by.
Enjoy the peacefulness of the moment. Continue your journey inward.
Stay here for as long as you like.
Reflect & Release
Next, it’s time to reflect and release.
This is where you use journal inquiries to help you explore your life right now. How you’re feeling, what’s out of balance, anything you’re holding onto that you need to let go of, or any fears or worries.
Grab your journal and a pen, and get writing. Don’t hold back. Even if you don’t know what to write, just keep writing. Allow everything to pour out of you. You can go back and make sense of it afterwards.
This will help you clear out your mind and your heart, so you can welcome in the new this moon. Journaling is also a great way to open up your intuition, and strengthen that muscle.
Questions to ask yourself:
- What do I wish to let go of?
- What is holding me back, or no longer serving me?
- Does anything need releasing?
- What feels out of balance?
- What’s on my mind right now?
- How am I feeling?
- What new experiences would I love to have?
Set new intentions
If you’re going to create your own new moon ritual, make setting new intentions a large focus of it.
This is because new moon is the perfect time for this. It’s a reset that comes every four weeks, allowing us to choose again.
Intentions are very different to goals for a few reasons. Goals tend to be focused on the external, while intentions are generally more focused on an inner feeling.
For example, a goal would be I want to earn 10k this month.
Where as an intention would be, I desire to feel financially abundant.
So take your time to think about what you want to call in. Think about how you want to feel every day.
Use what arose from your journaling to help you.
Your intentions can be focused on any area of your life. Your sacred work, your romantic relationships, your relationship with self, money, home, health – whatever you choose.
Just be sure to be specific when setting new intentions. The clearer you are, the easier it is for the Universe to join you in making it a reality.
Once you’ve chosen your intentions for this moon, take some time to write them down. Then read them aloud, or quietly to yourself.
Don’t skip this step! This is what will help make them feel more real, and bring them to life.
Visualise them becoming a reality
You’ve let go of what no longer serves you and set new intentions for what you truly desire. Now it’s time to sit quietly again, and visualise your dreams becoming a reality.
Picture a scene where everything you want has already manifested. See it. Hear it. Smell it. Feel it. Taste it.
Allow yourself to be swept away in the moment. Imagine how you’ll feel when your intentions become your new reality.
You might want to end this exercise by thinking, this or something better awaits me.
Open & receive
After completing my new intentions, I like to pull an oracle card for the new moon. My favourite deck at the moment is Nature’s Whispers. The images are beautiful. When choosing a deck, pick one that you love the images of and feel connected to.
Pulling an oracle card is a great way to receive divine guidance.
You might begin by asking, what is this moon about for me? Shuffle the cards, then pick one when you feel ready.
Sometimes I’ll do a three card reading instead. The first card represents where you’ve been. The second is where you’re at right now. And the third is where you’re going.
Remember, there are no bad cards. And if ever you don’t feel good about the card you’ve drawn, you have the power to choose again – so pull another one.
Closing your ritual
I like to close my eyes, connect with my breath once more, and soak in the new energy I’ve created during my ritual.
You might want to take five or ten minutes here to meditate if want to. Or perhaps do some gentle stretches, or light yoga postures.
Keep your intentions in a safe place. Re-visit them at least once a day; read them and visualise them as if they have already been completed.
And so it is.
Are you ready to create your own new moon ritual?
When you create your own new moon ritual, the focus should be rest, reflection, and resetting. Interpret that however you like, and create a ritual that feels good for you.
Remember that manifestation isn’t instant. Don’t expect anything to happen overnight. Trust in the process, and believe that the universe is on your side.
You have the power within you to create a beautiful life you love. Believe that. Carry it in your heart during times of challenge or struggle.
The moon and her cycle will always be here for you to work with over and over again.